Parenting!

 Hello everybody!

Welcome back to another weekly post. We will be discussing parenting.

This is a very dear topic because I believe that parents change children, thus changing communities and future generations.

Do you all see how impactful parents are?

So, the first thing that we may think of when we talk about parenting is, “What makes them good parents? What’s the best way to grow our children?” I will try to share some insights that I learned from my classes this past week.

Dr. Leonard sax gives us seven tips on having a respectful parent-children relationship

1-Show your children how to be conscientious

The most powerful predictors of health and happiness and wellness at 32 or 38 years of age are measures of conscientiousness in childhood and adolescence.

2- Teach your child to be humble

The culture of bloated self-esteem leads to envy and resentment.

3- Be firm with your children

Authoritative parents have better outcomes, and it’s a larger effect than the effect of race, ethnicity, household income, or IQ.

4- Assign chores

The unintended message kids get (if they don’t have chores) is that the kid is too important to stop doing menial chores.

5- When choosing a vacation spot, go out and get lost

Give your child a sense of our smallness in the universe. Turn off the screens and connect with the things of nature.

6- Kids should learn humility- but that’s different from timidity

Humility means, among other things, being as interested in other people as you are in yourself

7- Ask your child to be something, rather than merely do something

Young children are more likely to help with a project if they are encouraged to “be a helper” rather than merely asked, “to help.”

These seven tips can help parents to know what principles to teach to their children. Once they grasp the teaching, their behaviors will reflect their understanding, and they will act knowing why their parents act that way. I have seen how this made a difference in my childhood and even my teenage years.

Growing up, I always had a really good relationship with my parents. Both my dad and mother were always willing to listen, talk, encourage, and help in times of need. They were open to talk about anything and answering any questions I had. I knew I could talk with them without being judged. This is why I’ve never felt the need to lie to my parents if I didn’t do an assignment, or if I got a bad grade, or if I made a mistake. I remember when I started to make decisions that were not leading me to a good path. I knew I was not making my parents happy, but I also knew I could tell them what was wrong. I remember the night I told them everything, and surprisingly, they were disappointed or anything like that. Their love didn’t change because of my wrong decisions and bad behaviors. Their love was unconditional, and they never made me feel I was a failure. Instead, they taught me valid lessons and let me decide how to apply them. They would give their opinions and what they would choose in my place, but they always told me, “This is your life. We can’t choose for you, but we will love you anyway.” These words have always been in my mind, and they helped me make the right decisions eventually. The infinite love of my parents has brought me back to the right path.

“We will love you anyway.” I believe these words are what make a good parent. The qualities of infinite love, forgiveness, listening, and patience will help parents to build a trust relationship with their children. Children want to see and understand who their parents are. They want to know their hearts, and often, they observe and learn in silence. My hope is that parent can change their hearts first so that they can teach their children the secret ingredient for happiness: unconditional love in and out of the family.

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