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Divorce

Welcome back, everybody! This will be the last weekly blog post. We have come pretty far. Throughout these weeks, we have learned a lot about families and their role in communities. Today we will talk about divorce, and we will try to bust some myths. The first one is that most divorces result from “irreconcilable differences.” Neal Jacobsen and colleagues demonstrated that those marriages that were well on their way to dissolution had an average of 10 areas of significant incompatibility. This stood out in sharp contrast to those who report having high levels of marital satisfaction; they reported—on average—ten areas of significant incompatibility. The second is that 50% of all American marriages end in divorce. The number is actually much smaller. The authors of an entire book dedicated to the topic of collecting and analyzing American divorce stats claim it is less than 25% for couples married in the last decade. Another common is that if a spouse will ever have an affair, him/she ...
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Parenting!

 Hello everybody! Welcome back to another weekly post. We will be discussing parenting. This is a very dear topic because I believe that parents change children, thus changing communities and future generations. Do you all see how impactful parents are? So, the first thing that we may think of when we talk about parenting is, “What makes them good parents? What’s the best way to grow our children?” I will try to share some insights that I learned from my classes this past week. Dr. Leonard sax gives us seven tips on having a respectful parent-children relationship 1-Show your children how to be conscientious The most powerful predictors of health and happiness and wellness at 32 or 38 years of age are measures of conscientiousness in childhood and adolescence. 2- Teach your child to be humble The culture of bloated self-esteem leads to envy and resentment. 3- Be firm with your children Authoritative parents have better outcomes, and it’s a larger effect than t...
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Fathers & Finances

 Hello everybody! Welcome back. This week we will be discussing Fathers and Finances. I think I have not thought about how many families don’t have a present father in their children’s life. Many families are divorced, and often children spend the most time with their moms, thus making their finances life harder. Fathers make a difference in a family. They are the main provider, and with the help of a wife, they learn to create a budget to manage their money. However, this is not the case in many families. Will VanderToolen once said, “It is a sad truth that it is very rare a family has a budget. Most people just check to see if they have money in the bank and then spend it. They don't have a plan.” If most families do this, can you imagine how quickly their money will go away? Without a specific plan, people will lose control of their money without understanding how they are always at rest. Hereafter there five points to help families make a budget and control their finances, that...
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5 Secrets of Effective Communication

Hello there! Welcome back. It’s time for another post. This week will be talking about communication, and how it affects family relationships.  During class, my teacher shared a powerful strategy to ensure healthy communication within the family system, but I believe it could be applied to all forms of communication. The author stated that there are five secrets to effective communication. He proposed the word EAR, where E stands for empathy. Three different ways to show empathy are 1. The disarming technique (DT). We should focus on finding some truth in what the other person is saying, even if it seems unreasonable or unfair. 2. Empathy. We should learn to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes and try to see the world through his or her eyes. However, there are two different types of empathy. Thought Empathy (TE), meaning that we will share empathy by paraphrasing the other person’s words. Feeling Empathy (FE). It takes into account how the other person is probably feeling, b...
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Family Crisis.

Hi there! It’s time for another post. This week we will be discussing family crises and the various responses to stressful events. Can you all think of a moment in your life when you have experienced a family crisis? What was the nature of that crisis? Reuben Hill began to study the stress endured by families during the war. He developed the ABCX family crisis model to try to analyze different strategies in coping. Let’s say that A is the stressor event and the hardships it causes. B is the management of the stress through coping resources that the family has. C refers to the family’s definition of the event. A, B, and C interact to produce X, the crisis. However, McCubbin and Patterson proposed a Double ABCX model. They relabeled the A factor as family demands. There are three components to family demands. One is the stressor. The second is the hardships that accompany the stressor. Third, there are pileups, which are the residuals of family tension that linger from unresolved prior s...
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Sexual Intimacy And Family Life

 Welcome back, fellow friends! This week we will be talking about sexual intimacy, and how it affects family life. Let’s start with some researches. In the 1960s, William Masters and Virginia Johnson pioneered the investigation of the responses of the body to sex. The research identified four stages of human sexual response: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. Excitement, the first stage of arousal, is the result of some kind of physical or psychological stimulation. The excitement stage may or may not lead to the next phase. However, if the process continues, it can lead to the second stage, the plateau. In the plateau stage, there is a continuing high level of arousal preparing the way for orgasm. Orgasm, the third stage, is a discharge of the sexual tension that has been built up and maintained during the plateau. Following orgasm, there is a refractory period for the male, a time following orgasm in which the individual needs to recover and is incapable of having an ad...
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Love Is In The Air!

Hi there! Y'all know it’s time for another post. Last week we talked about the dating phase, and we tried to define what love is. This week, however, we will be discussing what happens when a couple gets married and what adjustment they need to make at the beginning of their new life. First of all, let’s discuss why people want to be married. People marry for reasons other than love. In fact, some social scientists believe that the full meaning of love only emerges during the course of a marriage, not prior to marriage. In ancient Greece and Rome, marriage was tied up more with politics and money than with love. Gradually, marriage came to be considered a matter of love rather than money or politics. Men sought intimacy in their wives rather than in courtesans. On the other hand, women increasingly looked to their husbands for intimacy and not merely for economic security.  All societies have the institution of marriage. People have well-defined rules about people getting married. ...
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